There are a lot of reasons why people commit to going to therapy. For some it may be to explore challenges in their relationships, for others it may be to address grief or loss, and for others yet it may be because loved ones have convinced them that they need support and are attending somewhat begrudgingly. This blog will focus on something that these groups all have in common, an opportunity to utilize evidence-based practices to help them become better versions of themselves.
Frequently people will be facing internal turmoil without fully understanding what they are experiencing. They may find that other people are concerned with their wellbeing or checking in with them more often than normal. Sometimes we are aware that something is bothering us and only recognize it because of the changes in our behavior. This might look like more frequently utilizing negative coping skills. Negative coping skills come in all shapes and sizes and drastically vary in their potential for self-harm. Some people turn to drugs or alcohol and others might be prone to over or undereating. My negative coping skill of choice is eating a bag of spicy chips that is sized to feed a small family of four. We use these coping skills because they make us feel something that our body and mind are comfortable with. You might be hurting internally so you crave equilibrium and your body and mind are only too happy to find that equilibrium partaking in unhealthy habits. While it is possible to work with your therapist to find ways to make you no longer use these coping skills, it is much more effective to learn how to utilize new healthier coping skills.
What do healthier coping skills even look like? Fortunately, there are a nearly unlimited amount of positive coping skills that can be taught and utilized in everyday life. As every person is a unique individual, not all coping skills are a great fit for everyone. This is important to recognize because there is absolutely nothing wrong with trying a new coping skill and understanding that it simply is not a great fit for you. Teaching positive new ways to cope with life is a process that is inherently filled with trial and error. My two favorite coping skills of exercise and journaling might cause some people to recoil in horror at the thought of having to go for a jog or spend even more time in their lives writing down thoughts. That is totally okay! Maybe your coping skills might be more centered in inner child work such as self-compassion or visualization. Your coping skills might even be meditation or a deep-breathing exercise.
There are so many avenues to approach self-improvement which all begin by taking that first step and working with a therapist. The therapist is uniquely trained on how to work with you, to truly listen to your story, and formulate a partnership with you to empower you to become the best version of yourself. This relationship will serve as the foundation to help you conquer life’s challenges; in whatever form they might take. It takes a powerful person to recognize that they can do better, that they can be better. If you are considering self-improvement, are in need of support, or recognize that some of your own behaviors are not helping you progress towards your life goals, then take that first step and schedule an appointment with Arise Wellness.
